In this article
- 01Step 1 — Choose people who can discuss relevant work
- 02Step 2 — Ask permission before sharing contact details
- 03Step 3 — Give the reference useful context
- 04Step 4 — Coordinate timing and protect current-work relationships
- 05Step 5 — Keep a clean reference sheet ready
- 06Step 6 — Thank your references and close the loop
Step 1 — Choose people who can discuss relevant work
Choose references who know your professional work well enough to give specific examples. Depending on the role and your history, that might include a former supervisor, clinical lead, peer, educator, or partner from a collaborative setting. Consider which part of your experience the person can describe: patient care, teamwork, reliability, communication, teaching, or a particular project.
A senior title is not automatically the best choice if the person barely knows your work. Aim for references who can speak accurately and recently. If you have a constraint, such as a current employer who does not know you are searching, tell the recruiter or hiring contact and ask what alternatives are acceptable.
Step 2 — Ask permission before sharing contact details
Contact each person directly before listing them. Explain that you are exploring a particular kind of role, ask if they are willing to serve as a reference, and confirm the contact details they want you to share. Ask how they prefer to be contacted and what times work. CareerOneStop specifically recommends obtaining permission and discussing the job-search goals and employers who may call.
A short message is enough: “I’m applying for a permanent outpatient clinician role with a focus on [setting or population]. Would you be comfortable serving as a reference if the process reaches that stage? I can send the job description and my current resume.” Accept a no graciously and thank the person for considering it.
Step 3 — Give the reference useful context
Once the person agrees, send the job description or a short role summary, your current resume, and the skills the employer is likely to ask about. Tell them the employer’s name and expected timing when you are allowed to share it. If there is a particular project or responsibility you hope they can discuss, remind them of the details without scripting their answers.
Keep the briefing factual. Never ask a reference to claim a skill or outcome they did not observe. If the role is in a new setting, explain the transition and the transferable experience you want the employer to understand.
- Employer and role, when you may disclose them
- Likely contact window and method
- Current resume and relevant job description
- Two or three work examples the reference personally knows
- Your preferred phone or email if they need to reach you
Step 4 — Coordinate timing and protect current-work relationships
Ask the employer when references will be contacted and whether a current supervisor is required at this stage. If you need to delay current-employer contact, raise that before submitting names and ask what alternative is possible. Do not assume a recruiter or employer knows your confidentiality needs unless you have discussed them.
Tell each reference the likely window as soon as it is confirmed. If the timeline changes, send a short update rather than repeated messages. Keep a record of who has been contacted and when, but do not store unnecessary sensitive information about the reference.
Step 5 — Keep a clean reference sheet ready
If requested, prepare a separate document with your name and contact information, the reference’s name, title, organization, relationship to you, preferred phone or email, and permission status. Follow the employer’s instructions about format and number of references. Do not place other people’s contact details on a public resume or upload them to an unfamiliar form before you understand why they are needed.
Check that the reference sheet agrees with the application. If you change a reference, tell the employer and the original contact. Make it easy for the hiring team to reach the right person while sharing only what is requested.
Step 6 — Thank your references and close the loop
After you know the employer has finished contacting references, send a thank-you message. You do not need to share a hiring outcome if you prefer not to, but let the reference know their time was appreciated. If you accept a role, ask before listing them again in a future search and keep their contact information current.
A prepared reference list supports your search, but it does not guarantee an offer. Continue to evaluate the role and ask direct questions about the work, schedule, support, and terms. Keep your reference relationships professional and your communication timely.
Sources and further reading
Sources checked September 28, 2026
- CareerOneStop — ReferencesAdvises job seekers to get permission, check contact preferences, and brief references on search goals and employers.
- CareerOneStop — Job ApplicationsExplains common application materials and the importance of accurate information in applications.
- CareerOneStop — Job SearchProvides practical steps for planning a search and preparing references and other job-search documents.